How do you want to be remembered?
This question has been on my mind a lot lately.
I often reflect on how I want to show up in the world and what legacy I’m leaving behind.
In Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, he asks, “What will people say about you when you die?”
It’s such an interesting and powerful question.
It made me pause because I don’t want to be remembered solely for working hard to take care of my children.
While that’s a big part of my story, I don’t want it to define me.
I want people to remember me as a loving person, a daughter who was good to her parents and siblings, a mother who loved her children.
More than that, I want to be seen as a woman who put God first, someone who led with intention, and was kind and of service to others.
Since my young adulthood, I have been on the go, with no breathing room.
I am now at a point in my life where what I thought was important just isn’t anymore.
What I thought I needed was simply things that I wanted.
Now, I feel most fulfilled when I am helping people get what they want.
Being of service to others, living a simple and meaningful life—that’s what brings me peace.
I don’t want to be known just for the grind—for working and working, constantly chasing a life that I didn’t fully get to enjoy.
Yet, here I am, a single mother doing it all.
People often tell me how strong I am, and while I appreciate it, what they don’t see is that I carry a heavy load—one I didn’t really have a choice but to bear.
Sometimes I wonder, am I leaving room for myself?
Am I living in a way that aligns with how I want to be remembered?
Or am I just pushing through life without stopping to breathe?
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle, especially when you’re carrying the weight of it all on your shoulders.
But I’m realizing more and more that I need to take a moment to step back and ask myself: Am I living a life that I can be proud of, not just one of survival but one of meaning?
I’m still working through this, and I don’t have all the answers, but I know this much—I want my life to be about more than just what I did.
I want it to be about how I did it: with love, intention, and grace.
How do you want to be remembered? Comment below.
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